Til' Then

I pride myself on being accepting of all things worldly. I don't participate in generalizations/stereotypes(check here for why) or mean spirited antics against those that are different from me. No, instead I try to embrace everyone around me as unique individuals who have the same love and enthusiasm for life and love as me.....

That is until I run across a man who is on the down low...

It urks me beyond belief.


Read more after the jump.....



I have no problem with someone who has messed with both sides. And for all sake of honesty, I will admit that I have participated in girl-on-girl moments. I have since moved on from that, but it is apart of my history. I still think about it sometimes, but it has been a while since I have actually went there. How's that for honesty? lmao! Any man that I talk to will find out because I believe in being completely honest so that the world isn't rose colored in the beginning and stank like isht in the end.

However, I do not, I repeat DO NOT, condone hiding this behavior. For the simple fact that you are eventually risking someone's life based on your desires to have your cake and eat it too. I feel it is only appropriate and respectable to come to me and explain your situation and train of thought regarding the whole thing. Let me make that decision for myself. Don't assume that because I love you, I will accept the fact that you like to dig and be dug too *dead*. I mean there are plenty of women out in the world, that have no qualms about a man who likes both sides of the fence. I, myself, am not one. I guess that would be the pot calling the kettle black...throwing rocks in a glass house....the ultimate double standard.

I feel that even though I participated in g-o-g moments, since I am upfront about my past that gives my partner the choice to stay or go. I have had men tell me that they are not attracted to that kind of thing, but they respect my honesty and continue to get to know me. {Thanks by the way ;)}

Silence begots forgetfulness, and forgetfulness begots carelessness, and carelessness begots risky behavior, and risky behavior begots the nervous two week wait.

If you are man enough to get your back dug out, while still having the urge to dig out a chick(sorry to my visual readers), be man enough to accept the backlash of responses that will come in regards to your decision. Everyone in this world is hated on for something or another, but if you decide to let the the feelings of some in the world reflect negatively on your mindset you will drive yourself crazy. Embrace and love you for you, and realize that no one else will do for you what you can. Be honest before you end up a statistic.

So to all the down low men out there....step up and stand out. More people are accepting of your behavior than you believe. And yes, you may lose everything you have, but in all honesty, it's all a lie anyways. If you base something on a shaky foundation, it will crumble one day. The dust will never settle, and your house will always be in a disarray.

Til' Then,

Ms. Trecie